Am I Dating a Narcissist?

Here are some warning signs that a person you have met or are starting a relationship with may be a Narcissist.

He may blame every error of his, every inadequacy or mishap on other people, or on the world at large.

He may be hypersensitive to slights and insults. He may treat children or animals with little thought and respect.

He may be too keen to get more time together and create a fast and furious relationship.

He can immediately cast you in the role of the love of his life and press for exclusivity and instant intimacy. He may text or phone you incessantly, or need to know where you are at all times.

He may not respect your boundaries and privacy, or may ignore your wishes, or want to be included in everything you do.

He may tend to want to control the situation and you compulsively, eg insist you ride in his car, hold on to the car keys, the money, or the theatre tickets. He may disapprove if you are away for too long, and interrogate you when you return. He may insist on a certain way of dressing.

He may act in a patronizing and condescending manner and criticise you often. He may emphasise your smallest faults (devalues you) even as he exaggerates your talents, traits, and skills (idealises you).

He may be wildly unrealistic in his expectations from you, from himself, from the budding relationship, and from life in general.

He may tell you that you make him feel good. Next thing, he may tell you that you make him feel bad, or that you make him feel violent, or that you provoke him.

He adopts a physical posture which implies and exudes an air of superiority, seniority, hidden powers, mysteriousness or amused indifference.

He takes part in social interactions and banter condescendingly, from a position of superiority.

He may ask for special treatment of some kind. Not to wait his turn, to have a longer or a shorter therapeutic session, to talk directly to authority figures (and not to their assistants or secretaries), to be granted special payment terms, to enjoy custom tailored arrangements, and can
frequently and embarrassingly dress down service providers such as waiters or cab drivers.

He flatters, adores, admires and applauds you in an embarrassingly exaggerated and profuse manner.

In general, he prefers show-off to substance and is shallow. He will not admit to ignorance or to failure in any field.

He may brag incessantly. His speech is peppered with I, my, myself, and mine. He describes himself as intelligent, or rich, or modest, or intuitive, or creative, but always excessively, implausibly, and extraordinarily so.

His history may sound unusually rich and complex. His achievements often seem beyond his age and education. Yet, his actual condition is in reality incompatible with his claims. He name-drops and appropriates other people’s experiences and accomplishments as his own.

He likes to talk about himself and only about himself. He is not interested in others or what they have to say. He is never reciprocal. He acts disdainful, even angry, if he feels an intrusion on his precious time.

In general, he is very impatient, easily bored, with strong attention deficits, unless and until he is the topic of discussion.

If you ask him about his emotions, he will intellectualise, rationalise, or talk about himself in the third person and in a detached scientific tone.

He may become enraged when required to delve deeper into his motives, fears, hopes, wishes, and needs.

He is usually very serious about himself. He may possess a fabulous sense of humour, scathing and cynical, but rarely does he make jokes at his own expense.

If you have found that you are already in a relationship with a Narcissist, and would like relationship counselling, or help in leaving a Narcissist, contact us at the Hart Centre Australia. We have over 50 Psychologists around Australia who have been educated in Narcissism and can knowledgably help you in dealing with your situation. We also offer Skype sessions for overseas clients or those you can’t attend one of our centres. Phone Australia 1300 830 553, or +617 55190004

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The Most Important factors to consider when purchasing office Furniture Sydney

The furniture you use in your office will make a big impression on your clients, a successful office turning your dreams into a reality. It is therefore important that you take many factors into consideration when purchasing your office furniture Sydney.

There are indeed a variety of ways that you can kit out your office these days and these include buying locally, taking advantage of office clearances and sales, and of course buying online. It is essential you know your budget and that you stick to it, but at the same time you need to make sure that your work space is inviting both to staff as well as clients and visitors.

The correct furniture, fixture and fittings can make the difference between a successful and professional running business and a failure, and when you will spend many gruelling hours in your office setting up shop, you will need to be comfortable in your surroundings. Your employees also need to have all the correct accessories and furniture to ensure that they work to their optimum; there really is no room here for scrimping and saving.

When shopping for your office furniture Sydney, firstly you will need to be clear in your mind as to what you will require; computer tables, filing cabinets and welcoming sofas and executive furniture are really a must these days. An office that does not provide an attractive and comfortable environment for its workers simply is not allowed these days; your employees have rights and they will not be afraid to make them known.

One feature of your office that you cannot compromise on within the office is your chairs. Whereas you may be able to disguise cheap shelves or tables, chairs need to be in good condition, of good quality, and provide the workers with a comfortable work station. Being correctly seated will allow the workers to be a lot more productive in their tasks even if they are not aware of this themselves.

It is therefore best to buy new chairs for your office furniture Sydney, and you can look for discount stores or even online when running to a strict budget. Desks on the other hand are a feature of your office that you can cut costs with; a practical desk that is solid with good storage space is advisable and for this you do not have to spend a fortune. Second hand desks and cubicles are often offered at a great price, and these are items that will last for years and will not really show wear and tear.

Storage and filing cabinets are also an essential part of any office; an untidy office with paperwork strewn everywhere will not only look uninviting to the client, but it will also slow down production time. All your essential office furniture Sydney needs can be dealt with by shopping in store or online; what is very important to realize in the outset though is budget furniture really is false economy as well as giving the wrong impression to important clients visiting.

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SEO Prices in Brisbane

With regards to SEO prices brisbane, or search engine optimization, a number of variables should be considered and I want to offer some tips on this to help you understand how the pricing models are created. I will also give some other examples of what companies charge, and also what to be on the watch for as well.

In essence, the idea behind search engine optimization is to have your website set up in such a way as to be more likely to be listed on the first couple of pages of major search engines. This will usually be for what are known as a series of specific key-words. For example, if your website is about housing mortgages, you want your website to come up quickly when people type in ‘housing mortgages’. However, there is a lot of competition in the marketplace and this is the main reason to use the skills of a good SEO company.

In addition, one thing some people forget to mention is that SEO companies are not managing search engines. This is an important factor as some will make great claims that you will be on the first page of Google in a day or two after using their services. While this is not impossible, but it is improbable as search engines consistently change methods that rank websites, and don’t have a hotline to SEO companies telling them what they will do. The key to SEO success is about completing particular tasks and processes that will bring your website to the top of the results with a lot of consistent, hard work.

This has had to be mentioned to remind you that this is an inescapable part of responsible SEO practice. When your site contains good quality background, containing processes such as articles, back-linking, quality and regularly updated blog content etc, you will be well on the way to being among the earlier sections of major search engine results.

Having mentioned the above, it is now clear why some companies may charge as little as a few hundred dollars a month to several thousand dollars a month. If you were to search online, you will find some companies charging relatively low fees, like this brisbane seo company an eighty nine dollar set up fee and three hundred dollars a month for their Platinum Package, which includes multiple accounts set up at blogging and social sites as well as articles and videos created for you , pointing to your site. Other companies like SEO Brisbane in Australia will cost you three hundred and fifty dollars a month and set up keywords, blogs, articles, private sites linking to your main site and they make sure your site is fully indexed as well as all the properties linking to your site.

However, some companies will charge you several thousand dollars to do the above work if your keywords are very competitive, like ‘mortgages’, as they are very difficult to rank for, given the competition, Provided you are seeing results within a few months, you could argue that five to ten thousand dollars a month is good value. It is unlikely a very high competition keyword will be able to be SEO’d for less than a few thousand dollars per month, with any success.

Having mentioned the above, you may well wonder what other styles of SEO fee structures exist? Some companies or private individuals charge a set fee on an hourly basis, but others may even want to profit share with you. There is no right or wrong method here- it just depends on what you are more comfortable with. It may actually be worth it to share some profit with a good search engine company, than pay an hourly fee and have a result that does not work.

With some SEO companies you will only be charged a base rate and then, when your page reaches its target rank, you are then required to pay a particular agreed amount, This keeps the search engine optimisation company paid while they are creating the campaign and then the full price is paid for the final result, given that it may take some time. This also can act as an incentive for the company to reach the desired goal. Again, there is no right or wrong answer here. It’s about recognising how comfortable you are with the service provider and their ability to help you reach your goals with your website.

Given the above information, you are going to be better placed to commence your research, and will know when you’ve found the right company for your needs.

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Home Solar Power Now Cheaper than Coal

Home Solar Power is now cheaper than Coal By installing Solar Power on your home you now have the ability to generate your own clean electricity for less cost than dirty coal based electricity whilst also doing your bit towards saving the planet.

How Solar Power works:
Solar Panels or photovoltaic panels convert sunlight into direct current electricity. This direct current power is then distributed to a device called an inverter that converts this electricity into mains power that can be used within your house or be exported to the electricity grid for other houses in the area to purchase.

The Price you are currently paying for electricity:
Depending on the state and town you are in and depending on the time of day you use power will depend on how much you pay for it. On average, households can pay between $0.30 and $0.40 per Kilo Watt Hour for electricity during peak hours which are usually between 2pm and 8pm. Costs for shoulder period electricity may be around $0.15 to $0.20 per KwH. .

The Price of Solar Electricity:
As most homeowners buy or lease a Solar Power System rather than actually buy the electricity, the standard mechanism for determining the actual cost of this electricity is done using the LCOE (Levelised Cost of Electricity). This is calculated by taking the upfront cost of the system and dividing it by the amount of KwH’s it will produce over its lifetime. .

Currently a 1.5kW Solar Installation costs around $2,500 fully installed (after available rebates). Over the expected 20 year life of the system, it should produce around 36,000 KwH’s. When dividing the upfront system cost by this number, it equates to an average electricity price of under $0.07 per KwH - significantly cheaper than current electricity costs. As electricity prices significantly increase over time this difference becomes even greater, as the electricity costs from the Solar Power installation remain the same.

To understand your options for getting your home powered with Solar Panels, or to understand more about Commercial Solar Power contact Todae Solar on 1300 GO SOLAR for high quality Solar Power Installations across Australia.

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What is Narcissism?

Have you ever got the sense that your partner thinks he or she is generally superior to you, or more entitled to things than you are? Does he or she find a host of ways to devalue you or ignore you? Does he or he try to control you? If so, you may be living with a Narcissist.

Narcissism is considered a spectrum Disorder, which means that there are degrees of manifestation of the characteristics, so a person could have a couple of Narcissistic traits, right through to many or all, which means they would be closer to a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as defined in the DSMIV.

Generally speaking, Narcissism is a condition of an Inflated False Self, which gives him or her a strong sense of self importance and a grandiose image of himself. He enters into relationships entirely for the purpose of keeping his grandiosity reinforced, as a source of Narcissistic supply for himself. He will idealise those who mirror this for him and devalue anyone as soon as they don’t. There is a real lack of genuine empathy for, or real interest in others, and a massive denial of his own problems, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities.
How did you become a willing victim? Why you?

If you find yourself in a relationship with a Narcissist, at some stage you might wonder why you? What does this say about you, your tolerance for pain and your sanity?
It is true that there is a particular kind of person that finds themself with a Narcissist, at least often well beyond the first indication that there is an underlying nastiness in him.

The kind of person who seems to unwittingly attract a Narcissist is someone who has Borderline characteristics, (which has also been referred to as Co-dependent or compliant) and has a deflated false self.

In Transactional Analysis terms, a Narcissist’s underlying Life position is I’m Ok, You’re Not OK, whereas a Borderline’s underlying Life Position is I’m Not OK, You’re OK.

Interestingly, a Borderline’s profile is less defended that the Narcissist, and less destructive to others, and therefore closer to achieving a healthy relationship, if you can gain true insight into what is happening and what is going wrong in your relationships and be able to develop a stronger identity and boundaries.
Can our relationship be helped?

If both you and your partner are committed to make your relationship a healthy and happy one, then I believe this is worth working on.

Finding a Psychologist who is familiar and experienced with these conditions is important as Narcissism can be notoriously difficult to pick up in a few sessions if the Psychologist is not trained in this. (Education on Narcissism is taught in Psychology courses but does not fully explain the widespread occurrence of this condition, and also the full ramifications of this, particularly to the partner. We at the Hart Centre are committed to ongoing training in these areas and in supporting you in managing yourself and your relationships.)

The success of relationship counselling and marriage counselling depends on many factors, but is largely due to the commitment of both partners to see their patterns and contributions, and be willing to change.

You will often not know how willing you and your partner are to do this until you attempt to do so. You will be able to see for yourselves over 3 to 6 sessions what real effort each of you are putting in to see the problems, own your contributions and make changes.

We can also support you if you have decided to leave your Narcissistic partner, and want help and assistance in rebuilding your life.

The Hart Centre has 54 centres for relationship and marriage counselling around Australia, so you will most probably find one close to you. You will find our Sydney relationship counselling centres in 15 different locations in Sydney, both in the CBD and suburbs. In Adelaide we have relationship and marriage counselling centres in 5 locations across Adelaide. Phone 1300830552 to speak to our friendly receptionists.

For relationship counselling Sydney and marriage counselling Sydney contact the Hart Center. The Hart Center can also help with marriage counselling Adelaide.

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Hay - New South Wales

Located near the splendid Murrumbidgee River in idyllic South Western NSW, the Riverina township of Hay has grown from its modest origins in the Gold Rush era to an important agricultural and transportation nexus and popular tourist attraction. Combining natural beauty, historical significance and important Australian industry, the Hay Shire incorporates both the town of Hay as well as the nearby villages of Booligal, Maude and One Tree. The flat saltbrush grasslands of Hay are home to one of Australia’s foremost wool growing and sheep meat producing areas, as well as cattle ranches and various agricultural outputs such as lettuce and rockmelons.

Also around Hay are the Riverine Forest, Grey Box Woodlands and Native Scrublands, home to a substantial amount of diverse Australian fauna, such as Kangaroos and Echidnas. The plains of Hay have given ideal living conditions for human settlement going back to the Nari Nari Aboriginal community who inhabited the area. White settlement began with the founding of four squatter properties, growing into a community funded by commerce with the stockmen and riverboats who traversed Langs Crossing.

Along with the construction of a hotel, post office and courthouse, Hay grew with the famous Cobb and Co making Hay their base of operations for Victoria and the Riverina, including the largest stagecoach workshop outside of Sydney. Growing tenfold in population, Hay was later decimated due to almost every adult male volunteering for service in World War I, of which 1/6 were did not make it back. Hay’s population would later be increased after the thousands of war prisoners and refugees held in the area during World War II were released and later resettled in Hay. Still a rural agricultural town, Hay embraces and celebrates its history and natural beauty with a number of locations and establishments that cater to tourists and locals alike.

For short term accommodation hay, accommodation hay or holiday home hay, make sure you investigate Murrumbidgee Cottages. Both of our cottages are situated just a short distance from the picturesque Murrumbidgee river and are perfect for families. If you are looking for a holiday home for a couple of days, short term accommodation or even something longer either would be a great fit.

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